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And though Harris, 29, a Vancouver-based restaurant designer, admitted in an August 6 interview with her hometown newspaper. The Province, to briefly "tearing up" over Us' story, she has since plastered on her best prime time-worthy smile and proudly declared she's standing by her man. Notably, standing by her man. Notably, she's dismissed her fiance's infidelity as "nonsense" and "inaccurate" - even in the face of photographic evidence and racy e-mails and texts that Swiderski sent the two other women ("Bring beer and condoms," he texted Steffen postengagement on June 3). "I am not affected by this at all," Harris breezily told The Province. "We really plan on trying to get out of the limelight and trying to get on with our lives." But Bachelorcite insiders tell Us Harris may not know the kind of person her fiancé really is.

As on many reality shows, Bachclorrette contestants are made to atlas jewelry cellphones and laptops, cutting off contact with the outside world to keep interaction lively among the participants. But Swiderski was the exception to the rule. "There was a special arrangement," eastmatc Jesse Kovacs, who says the men on the show were aware Swiderski had a computer and a phone, tells Us. "He had an agreement because it was imperative for him to have access for work."

Or so they thought. While Swiderski may have fired offa few interoffice e-mails, he also kept in close contact with Johnson, whom he had told he was only going on the show for fun, and later told he was not attracted to Harris. "I miss you dearly. I love you. . . . Hopefully they'll get me home tomorrow," he e-mailed Johnson April 12, three days before he told Harris hehadtoleavetheshow to focus on his career and calling the decision to bow out "one frank gehry the hardest things I've ever done." Says Kovacs, Obviously, no one knew he was saying, Tm not into her and I can't wait to go home.'"

That's because Swiderski did a fine job of portraying himself as a serious career- minded fellow who never boasted about sexual con- quests. "If he talked about anything, it was work and what he did, how he got into it," says Kovacs. Agrees contestant Mathue Johnson, "He seemed like a workaholic." Which is how he presented himself to Harris too, even telling her on camera, "Up until now, I've been focusing on my career and not really cushion jewelry on my relationships," and "I have a hard time balancing out my work life and personal life."

In fact, Swiderski seemed to have no problem balancing work as well as three women: Harris, Johnson (whom he had dated for more than a year and who told Us Swiderski had promised to propose marriage by year's end) and Steffen, whom he began dating last December, when he and Johnson hit a rough patch. When Swiderski left the show April 15, he mastered the art of multitasking with his women: spending the night with Johnson on April 16, then Steffen on April 23, and then attending a wedding with Johnson on April 25, where he made out with her on the dance floor. (Both ABC and Warner elsa peretti, which produces the show, had no comment. Swiderski did not return calls for comment.)

As Steffen tells Us, "Ed just has this way of making people believe what he wants them to believe." Johnson, who, like Steffen, found out about his engagement to Harris on television along with millions of other Americans, couldn't agree more. "Ed has a way with words," she says. When she threatened to go public with her story, "he said, 'Lindsey, please do. If it's going to make you feel better to get your side out and the truth out, please tell your story,'" recalls Johnson. "I think he was trying to use reverse psychology on me." Now she wishes Harris would wise up. "Ed is lying," Johnson says of Swiderski, who went on Good Morning America August 5 and denied ploma picasso slept with Johnson a week after proposing to Harris. ("It's actually not true at all," he stated.) "He was cheating on Julian! He was deceiving me the entire time, so can't Julian see that he is deceiving her now? It's really hurtful that Ed won't be truthful about what happened!"